There is a beautiful connection between love, sex and death. Death awakens to question” Why are we here? And the search for this answer is the path to experiencing love, loss of love, the death of a loss, and the life after such death on this mortal plane of existence. In life even though you know you will die you do not know if you will live or love. This is the path of unraveling our purpose in life or the purpose of life. And in life we question our lives and the definition of love. A this is a contemplation to understand our own reality and existence. Both the contemplation of life and death itself takes courage.
So we might not have experienced a physical death yet. And some have experienced the concept of a physical death through different plant medicines or ceremonies. But maybe you have experienced the death of a relationship? The loss of a loved one and the little death within yourself, the concept of separation feels so alive in these moments. And at the other end of this duality between life and death is the interconnectedness that we feel in relationships. We feel the oneness within the connection when we feel understood, seen, and create the space of unification through sex as we merge into the oneness of the Divine. And in the act is our orgasm that awakens our death of self by dissolving our ego through union. This is a great mystery. This is the gateway to the understanding of death at the end of life. The French call this La Petite Mort (the little death) the death of our ego. This is a great mystery revealed as we merge into oneness with our partner. Time collapses on lovers. This is the definitive between life and death and sex. This is the death within life..
So I was in love with you in the moments that you were in love with me. And then that moment changes, as all moments do. We fight to grasp onto a moment. If someone or something more desirable enters one of our lives, does that mean the desire to re-spark that kind of love is gone? NO, It just means that what we have now is a different kind of love. And only free will on a conscious level to reignite that flame is the transformation of embers into fire. Fire changes everything it touches. It is the element of change and transformation. And only though obsessed with the idea of being in love then actually occupying the relationship in love do we experience death. Which creates extracentral terror. To be obsessed with love is to be obsessed with death. For it internally is the cause of the end of all relationships. I love this quote “Love doesn't die it changes”. It speaks to the allowance of things to change. And by not accepting this transformation do we experience the death of separation. To be separated from another is to be separated from God. It’s primordial. Gods have infinite knowledge but because they're not mortal their love will never be worth that of a mortal human.
Relationships should have a nonlinear temporality. Like in a video game, you have multiple lives and if you fail you sprung up and are reborn to learn and transcend the aspect of what you once failed. This form of temporality should be harnessed in relationships. You can’t make any progress if you can’t make any mistakes. So the key is to navigate and communicate these mistakes and alchemize them so we can level up in our relationships. The more mistakes you navigate and alchemize in a relationship the stronger the relationship becomes. So when you fail together you fail at a deeper level of intimacy. Which transcends loss and mistakes. This is what we're here to live for. To be seen, understood, and to transcend the illusion of separation and have compassion for our humanness. THIS IS LOVE..
So In life we know we’re going to die. And that separates us from all animals and plants. And puts us in the realm of gods. Our ability to contemplate, break down, and compartmentlize our lives and our own existence is the fundamental freedom of the Gods. Having a near-death experience reminds us of life. And in some cases gives our life more purpose. In Mexico they have the philosophy of the three deaths (dia de los muertos) The first time you die is the moment you realize that you are mortal and that death is animent. The second death is the time you actually die and your soul leaves your body. The third death is the last time anyone says your name in memories. So to experience love is to experience death, and death makes life worth living.
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