Trying to be a man in this ever-changing Society has become difficult. As the balance begins to shift in a more feminine Society Men must prepare ourselves and be ready to support our fellow man and women through this transition. I believe like all good things that come into balance there has to be inbalance first. But that does not mean giving up our masculinity. It means adapting and supporting one another through this transition. Being a wild man is not being afraid of your emotions. Bringing totality into our relationships is key. So it is important for us in this day and age to do our research. Like what it means to follow your Dharma or read books on Shadow work. Read books on toxic masculinity are important right now. Meditation to get in touch with our feminine side so we could bring ourselves into balance is all good things. But it is important not to get so in your head. Because we are intellectual beings we tie some of these agreements that we have learned to our ego. In Buddhism it teaches you the path of enlightenment. Dissolving of ego. Men and women are craving the full expression of who we are. Leaders who walk with strength in their emotions.
It's also important to understand why this shift is happening between the masculine and feminine. There's a lot of reasons. First is the life force consciousness is ever-expanding. As we start to know ourselves better as humans we make more conscious decisions on bringing balance into our lives. This is our souls destiny to find balance. The second has to do with our chemical makeup. As generations of men the levels of testosterone in the man walking on the earth today is much lower than his father or his father before him or his great-grandfather. I believe this has a lot to do with the food that we are choosing to eat. Being we no longer are hunter-gatherers eating game meat as our primary source of protein and changing our diets to a more processed food diet. That survival mentality that we had to live with for so long is no more. Back in the early evolution of man we had to be hunters. It was a Rite of Passage for us. How to kill and gather in order to survive. The third thing I believe is technology. As we increase our capacity for knowledge we get more in our heads and out of our energetic bodies. This creates a detachment from our emotional self. We get so caught up in what we know that we spend little time really feeling.
Without allowing men to be emotional creatures as children we can start to see the creation of the Savage Man. The Toxic masculinity. Have you ever heard the saying “stop crying and suck it up, be a man” I heard that a lot as a child. And because of what Society put on us as men and what we should be and not what we can be we have created unhealthy agreements within ourselves to fit in what we believe is right and wrong. We have suppressed the masculinity in our children and as adults. By not allowing a boy or a man to truly express his emotion, his rage, his passion, his courage, his fire and his primal nature we create the toxic masculinity. We must find healthy ways for men to be able to express themselves. We need to allow men to tap into their feminine side and be able to express their emotions in a healthy way. Once a man has been able to do so they will find balance within themselves between the masculine and feminine. They will be able to not only express themselves healthy but walk in a conscious way speak with courage and show compassion. These are the type of men we should be raising. And when boys become men, which can take place at any age, we need to give men a right of passage. A right of passage that fits within our modern society. This is so needed for men to grow into there powers. A good friend Nick Davidson talk to me about fire walking as a Rite of Passage. Or even spending the day out in the woods with very limited supplies alone. But what other Right of Passages can we touch on?
Being a wild man is truly being connected to Nature. being fully aware of every season every animal and emotion around you. Being connected to Nature is being connected to your feminine side. Nature is cyclical. And once you've done the work you will start to feel excited. Being man and being a hunter and gatherer we will find ourselves wanting to go out and spread the word. You'll want to share your experience and growth learn and teach others along their path. It is important to not become egotistical on your journey. We must be constantly checking in with ourselves and keep coming back into balance. Just let go of the Judgment we have on the feminine. Once we are able to see the beautiful aspect of the feminine for exactly who they truly are, only then will we will be able to integrate that into our own self. We could do this by creating equality for men and women. We need to evald our skills. We need to be able to hold space for women to express their pain. The pain that they felt for Generations of being ostracized and belittled. and we must reward them by acknowledging their feelings and commending them for their bravery. this is not a time for the masculine problem solving self to arrives. We must become containers for healing. We need to adapt to the cultural shift by supporting our female counter parts. And we do this with communication and empathy. So we can keep up with the advancement of women.
Masculine communication has a lot to do with movement. Men are really good at putting things into action and seeing results. Women's communication is based more on intimacy and connection. The integration between people species and sexes. So when we increase our feminine within ourselves this does not mean we decrease the masculine. It means we have more room to grow our masculinity even larger within ourselves to match the feminine aspect of our self.
For some of us we have Partners at home that might feel neglected. Soon we will feel so empowered by the work we've done our partners at home might not feel like they are fully satisfying us anymore. We must find a way to express that beautiful excitement in it intimate way with our goddesses.There's no point of feeling Godly if our goddess's feel neglected. Bring that charismatic seductive and potency back home to your lover. Some good things to do is to sit down and have the open communication about how you are both feeling in your love life. This brings quality time to a relationship which is very important. You could also both start working on tantric practices. Tantric practices work with the breath in the flow of energy. This can bring such deep intimacy and connection to you and your partner. And make her feel like the goddess she is. Because if you don't do the work and you feel like everything will just work itself out you will lose your goddess. Trust me it happened to me. Do not allow the energy between you and your partner to become stagnant.
So in order to do this work inside of you we must first let go of societies view on the feminine masculine. We need to end the war on our own feminine aspect of ourselves. We need to look inside of our own Shadows and be vulnerable and acknowledge when ego comes up. We need to see when our Judgement, showvinizism, misogynistic, power struggles and passive aggressive behaviors arise. And sit with them. Do not judge them as bad or good. Acknowledge them welcome them. feel them inside of you until Yuan body them.Till every inch of your body is filled with that feeling or emotion. And then hold it and cradle it like a baby. See it in its innocence. And then you will see how it was created. That is the hero's journey.
Inspired by Kevin Orosz
Written by Blake Cahill
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