Sexuality in modern days

In our society there is a lot of repressed sexuality. There are people that go everyday without even being touched. This is very sad. Connection is the key fundamental aspect of our existence. We need to open up the conversation on sexuality and break the stereotypes based around it. We need an outlet where we can express our sexual desires so we can bring them into the light and see the true positive and negative aspects of our desires. Some of the negative aspects of our sexual desires come from repressed trauma.

Tantra practice is yoga. It is the balance between Shakti and Shiva. Shiva is in the masculine the seed of universal consciousness. Shakti being the feminine is the creator of life. Practicing tantra could help you create a healthy relationship with your sexuality. Tantric practice is spiritual practice. Our souls crave connection with others and to share energy. Just like we crave to feel connection to the divine. You could practice Tantra by yourself or with a partner. If you practice with a partner it is important to have established trust. Tantra has a lot to do with flow in the energy from your sacral chakra up to your heart chakra and even up through your third eye and crown chakra. When we practice Tantra we do not have to ejaculate. Or we could use the practice to extend our sexual experience and our orgasms. By holding on to this energy you are holding on to life force energy, Parana or Jen energy, which is designed to create life. And just like all energy it has polaris, Yin & yang, masculine & feminine. Tantra practice is about uniting the two energies in a beautiful dance. A dance of connection and intimacy in a state of meditation with your partner. When we play with this duality of masculine and feminine to become oneness we are flowing sexual energy through out your chakras. It is the same as awakening our kundalini.

For us men practicing sexual tantra takes a little more time than it does for women. Womens bodys are already built for sexual tantra. Their level of arousal rises and falls gradually over an extended period of time. Where most men tend to ejaculate within the first 5 to 15 minutes and then just want to go to sleep afterwards cuz they've released all of their Chi energy. So men’s level of arousal can peak very fast and drop just as fast. If we practice how to get to 80% climax and then flow that energy upward instead of reaching 100% and ejaculating we can then come in sync with our feminine. We can ride wave after wave of orgasm’s without ejaculation. If you get too close to that 100% there is an acupuncture point located about 1 inch under your testicles. In Chinese Tao, this is known as the Conception Meridian or Jen-Mo. Pressing and holding this spot for 15 to 30 seconds could suppress your ejaculation.

Tantra is important for men and women to practice. The more we know our bodies and what pleases us the more comfortable you can be with leading your partner through the practice of sex or energy exchange throughout the day. Is a beautiful intimate way of connecting with another person. We need to let down our boundaries and let go of the idea that sex is something that is bad or should be hidden or not talked about. The more we let go of these concepts the deeper the exploration about sex we can obtain. “Having sex is fun. Making love is beautiful. Practicing tantra is divine.” ~Padme OM

There are some men out there who probably masturbate more than they should. Releasing more energy out of themselves than holding it in. But it is important to masturbate so you can understand the levels of climax that you can achieve. You could also learn how to stay aroused longer and not ejaculate so fast. And I’m sure there’s a lot of women out there that do not masturbate that often. There are some women out there that do not even feel orgasms from penetration. There are also some women that could only get off in certain positions. Or need stimulation from toys. By masturbating you could find the same levels of arousal and where you peek at. You could learn how to flow your energy with breathing techniques that could stimulate your orgasm. It is also very important to know where your G spot is. How do you like it touched and what can bring you to climax. If you’re a woman and have had a difficult time orgasm, I would look into pussy de-armoring. 

The G spot is a very powerful spot just inside the walls of the vagina. By putting two fingers inside and doing the come here motion working the top part by her belly button could bring some women to an orgasm. Clitoris stimulation is probably the most common way to orgasm for a female. If you could get to the point where you squirt this is known in ancient India as “Amrita” (the nectar of the gods) this is different then a regular orgasm. This fluid is believed to have psychotropic properties. And in ancient India text they said to drink this divine nectar you could achieve immortality. What is happening is the female body is changing energy into a liquid state. This is known as alchemy. They literally change sexual energy into a high vibrational fluid.

In Sanskrit we call the womb yoni. Meaning the Secret space of all life. Let’s treat it as such. Before intercourse bow to your partner's womb space. Thank her for being the creator of life. Put your hand right below her belly button with a slight amount of pressure and send love into her womb space. Yes we can make love and make it sacred. And women you could do the same for your partner. Thank them for all the energy they put into you. Rest your hand on their heart and send love into them.

If you do tantra practice with somebody you're not in love with, you eventually fall in love. Tantric practice opens up the heart and when the heart is open the deepest level of connection is expressed. So it is best not to practice tantric with just anybody.  you carry the energies with you of the people that you practice sexual Tantra with. For women it’s about 28 days, for men it’s about 7 days. So being able to stay focused with just one partner at a time is immensely important if you are going to practice this modality. You build trust and begin to understand the other person's body and how their energy flows. You become so connected to that person you will feel each other, no matter how far apart you are. Your connection for one another will go beyond the bedroom. This is a true connection to another and the divine union.



In Tantra practice you have to set the mood, light the candles, bring in the scent and speak at all feelings and emotions are welcome here. Everything is done consciously just like in yoga. So take your time. Foreplay is one of the most beautiful practices and important parts of Tantra. You should be entering the place where you make love as if you are entering a temple. Doing yoga before sex is really good to get the blood moving as well as getting your body limber and ready for intimacy. Starting by worshiping one another. Women you can sit in your man's lap with your legs wrapped around him and your heels touching. Men you should be sitting with your heels touching as well. This creates an infiniti for energy to flow. Men put your hand on her womb and send love and think of her womb for being the creator of life. Women, you can put your hand on your man's chest and think of his heart for all the blood that it's going to pump through its body to help move the energy that you two are about to create. Eye gazing is a very powerful meditation in the bedroom. Staring into each other's eyes you could really see the depths of one another. when you are gazing into each other's eyes see past each other's masks and see the True Divine in one another. Reciprocal breathing is another beautiful practice. When you inhale you inhale each other's breath slowly in the energy down your spine to your root chakra and exhale it into your partner. Remember why you are flowing this energy to pause momentarily at the sacral chakra. This will allow your sexual energy to be stored there. This energy could later on be used during sex so you do not get worn out. You will be able to use these built-up energy peak moments of arousal. Invite the Divine into the bedroom. Take turns worshiping one another. You could spend one full day focusing and worshiping your partner or you can do it moment-to-moment. Engaging in intercourse for long periods of time is important to bring the balance of Yin and Yang to the bedroom. After building up all of that energy from having sex it is important to stop and take breaks and rest. This can be like a state of meditation where you could even remain inside your partner and let the energy flow. The energy will naturally flow upward. This could be like riding the wave of love.

The best time for a man to make love is in the morning. The best time for women to make love is at night.

The full moon is the most difficult times for men to control their ejaculation or sexual energy. And this is when the female energy is at its peak.

Sex magick is the power of manifesting something together which can take place during the orgasm. If two people visualize what they would like to come into their lives together it will be stronger energy to truly see it coming to fruition.